A story that has flooded the UK gossip sites and social media, is Reality Show star Mariam Musa’s tell-all of her public breakup. She also shared gems on how to move on in a healthy way!
Mariam Musa first grabbed the public’s attention in ITV2’s show Survival Of The Fittest where 12 singles travel to the South African Savannah and live together while competing in physical and mental challenges to win £40,000 cash… all while trying to find love.
And Mariam sure did, in sleeve-tattoo ridden hunk, Warren Phillips. Their romance was one that captured hearts across the UK and then suddenly it was done. After a year and some months, Mariam posted on her stories in May that she and Warren ere over but was very vague on details other than she knows her worth.
It should be obvious that he messed up by now
So when this weekend she posted a 38min video on the details of the breakup after 2 months of silence, revealing that Warren had cheated multiple times with an ex, it is to no surprise that it’s sparked up many social media conversations about breakups, unfaithfulness, and exes who can’t let go.
Watch the video below
But what can we learn out of all of this?
Well, a visibly upbeat Mariam notes in the video that cheating affects many women around the world and advises not to feel like there is something wrong with you… Advise that we believe is rare in the public space because it’s perpetuated that if he cheats on you, “you must have lacked or been distasteful in some aspect.”
Mariam gave 6 tips on how to move on healthily:
1 look out for red flags
If you have felt valnerable in someway though your partner’s actions that make you not trust him, Mariam advises that you have the right to questuin him until you are satisfied with his truth. If he is truly sorry for his pas actions, he will be patient with this as he is aware you are still healing your trust in him.
2 All Bad Decisions Are Good Decisions
There is always a lot to learn from taking the wrong turn and ending up with the short end of the stick. Never beat yourself up about dating the wrong man, rather praise yourself for having the courage to leave and learn what you DON’T want.
3 Keep creating new goals
Mariam gets excited in the video about all she has achieved since the breakup: getting her drivers license, getting a new apartment, spending time furnishing it. This is a very important step not to miss as if you don’t do this, you tend to feel stuck and believe the relationship was the best thing to happen to you. Achieving goals on your own reminds you that you are powerful in your own right and don’t need to lean on a man to achieve anything.
4 Conquer the loneliness
A big mistake lots of people do is jump straight into a new relationship because the new and sudden feeling of loneliness is overwhelming. It’s pretty simple: don’t do it. Take the time to gather your personality to it’s original, independent state again by learning to enjoy the time you spend alone. It’s okay to start dating as soon as you don’t feel sad anymore, don’t commit until that person proves that they are worth your time.
5 Reignite your faith
Sometimes we get so caught up inm our relationships that we tend to lose our faith practices. Whether you are a christian, musilm, believe in aligning your Chakras, or anything else in between: use the time alone to cleanse your spirit and fall in love with yourself (and your God) again.
6 Keep your confidante close
Toxic relationships tend to slowly isolate you from your friends and family without you realising it at times. Always consciously keep your confidantes involved in your life because once that relationship is over, they are the ones who will be there to pick you up and nurse your spirit back to health.
7 Cry it out if you must, but do it ONCE!
One that I personally loved (besides the keep your goals alive one) is that you should pick a day, any day really, to dedicate morning this relationship. But the condition is you do that to your hearts content with the end goal being not to turn back. Morn it like a death if you must, but DO NOT call or text them. Always know you are worth more than tears caused by another and once someone causes them, they should be cut out. Positive impact people only allowed!
Lastly… and this is a curtesy tip: don’t get involved in other people’s relationships!
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